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Autism in the ER

3/7/2017

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Having a child on the spectrum is challenging enough without human services breathing down your neck. But, did you know that parents of children with autism (or any disability really) are more likely to be accused of child abuse than parents of typically developing children. I know, this is so unfair.

When my son was 5, he was attacked by a dog while playing in our backyard. We rushed him to the emergency room. They said it would be an hour wait before they could see him, so we rushed him to another hospital. They saw us right away, but we had no idea what a storm we were in for. Although we were trapped in that room for 6 hours (which is difficult for a traumatized child with autism) the only treatment my son received was a dab of wet gauze on his wounds.  I was so immersed in helping my son cope, it didn’t raise my suspicions when the doctor said, “I don’t think these are dog bites!”

“What do you think they are then?” I wasn’t being smart, I was seriously asking. But she never answered. I was confused by her questioning. My son had the dogs white fur on him. He kept repeating over and over through tears that the dog bit him.  I didn’t know where she was going with her comments. When they finally let us go, we were just happy to finally get home.

The next day as I was heading out to take my son to the pediatrician for a follow up visit, there was knock at our door. My husband and I looked at each other; we weren’t expecting anyone. Social services had arrived to investigate. Investigate what? The next couple of days would be humiliating and challenging. They were investigating child abuse. How did we get here?
Little did I know that parents are more likely to be accused of child abuse with a child who has autism because children on the spectrum:
  1. may not be verbal
  2. even if they are verbal, they are less likely to pay attention or talk to a stranger
  3. they may have self-injurious behavior (hitting self, peeling skin back, etc), which result in bruising, sores, etc
  4. they tend to get over-stimulated or
  5. what you have to do or how you have to talk to redirect them may look/sound abusive
So here’s an extra thing parents of special needs children need to consider (as if constant therapy appointments, IEP meetings, food allergies, alienation, etc are not enough). The physical, emotional and financial demands of caring for a child with a disability can be overwhelming. Hopefully, emergency/urgent care services and doctors can create more friendly environments and policies for children with special needs who need urgent care. Especially when it comes to sensory sensitivities and communication. Parents of children with special needs, be cautious where you go should your little angel incur an injury because poor medical treatment and a brush with human services can harm your child even more. They may be doctors, but most doctors in ER have no idea how to approach a child who has autism or the family dynamic. In the doctors’ defense, they are stressed too, but the child should not have to suffer additional trauma for their ignorance.

As for my family, how did we fair in the end? Although the ER called human services on us, in the end they said they had no record of ever seeing my son. Of course, we had our paperwork ready and a strong support network.

Here's a similar article for further reading:
Improving Emergency Care for Children with Autism
3 Comments
Aisha Pratt
3/9/2017 07:09:05 am

It is important that health care workers know what to look for in signs of abuse, but it's equally as important that they can differentiate between that and a child with disabilities. Very good article! Thanks!

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Shemora link
3/31/2017 12:30:26 am

Thank You Aisha Pratt for your feedback! Yes, it is important to be able to differentiate, but also to be accommodating. Like what could they have done to make that experience better for my son. For him the hospital was just as bad as the dog bite.

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Aliyyah Nubee
4/23/2017 09:20:11 pm

Good article! I never thought about this happening in doctor's office honestly. However, I do always imagine my neighbors calling social services on me because of all the screaming and the scene we cause rather frequently trying to get him in the car in the morning for school. Because this really happened to you, it makes me think - how will I be prepared should a concerned neighbor make that call??

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